For a moment she lost herself in the warmth of her tea.
Probably the closest she’s come to comfort in a long time.
And when she finally looked up at me you could see the loneliness and suffering in her eyes.
She’s been married for over five years. But in all honesty four of them have felt like she’s been alone.
Totally and completely alone.
Tons of people in relationships suffer silently. And even though they may be with someone. That someone is miles away.
This got me to thinking about true needs. About getting clear on what it is that we really need to feel like we’re loved.
And the crazy thing is that true needs are never big crazy over the moon type of things.
They’re usually small. Tiny little moments of love.
* Holdings hands
* Cuddling on the couch
* Saying I love you
* Going for a walk with no destination in mind
* Shooting the breeze over a coffee
* Watching a movie together
* Calling unexpectedly to say hi
So the trick here is 1st to get clear on your true needs. What matters most to you?
Then 2nd, when you start to date someone, or if you’re currently in a relationship that is blossoming, to be sure to let them know. Have a heart to heart about what your true needs are.