Like you mentioned, ultimately, even if we’re in a crowd of thousands of people we will be experiencing that experience in ways that even our closest friends will never truly know.

That aloneness lets us touch the essence of ourselves. It lets us understand what it all means for us on a personal level. We process it. Learn from it. And hopefully grow from it in some way.

So aloneness is coming into contact with the inner essence of ourselves. Loneliness misinterprets the silence within as a void of desperate darkeness. One that we must escape from.

Once we can find our place within and our place within the world, that is when we will find ultimate joy.

From the moment we are born we are surrounded by people. Even if only our mother is there we come into this world connected and in the presence of someone.

A subtle lesson for us that we may miss. That we are never truly alone. And with a little oomph we can come back into the world and connect with people through this experience we call life.

Actually, I have the opposite problem, that of finding more quiet time, time for me to just be with me.

And ultimately, the most profound kind of loneliness is the realization that no one can truly know us completely, can never share our experience the way we do. Even our most intimate friends are pursuing their life journeys alone, just as we are. The antidote to this kind of existential separation is acceptance and affirmation of self. Self-respect and self-love.

And it does help to be able to have those intimate relationships. That kind of closeness matters a lot.

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