How To Deal With Stressful People
Stress Management
Some Simple Techniques For Managing & Eliminating Stress In Your Life
We’re all subjected to some form of stress in our lives. Be it stress at home, at work, or just going to the corner store. I live in Toronto, the biggest city in Canada, and I’m always going downtown which is usually a central location for stress pots.
Be it people that are stressed out because they’re running late, they hate their jobs, or despise be crammed into subways like sardines. Stress levels are usually pretty high in the core of the city.
As well, for most of my life I have been in some form of Customer Service role. I’ve been a prime candidate for people to dump their stress if they feel that they need to do so. And trust me, they do feel the need to unleash their stress and start to feel better at any expense in most cases.
Below you’ll find two methods I use to help me deal with stressful people. Of course my first bit of advice on this topic is to become present and aware of their inherent Buddha Nature, that way you sort of become blind to their stress. But in addition to that option are two others. With the use of these two techniques I would have to say that about 99% of the time I’m able to transform these stressed out maniacs into laughing happy people once more.
And usually they’ll find me some time later to apologize for their stressed out lives and how they treated me earlier.
“Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.”
Plato
During these stressful “encounters” it’s good to remember that these stressed out lunatics, who may be cursing you, you family, and generations to come, are really people too. People like you and me. People who feel in that moment, completely and utterly overwhelmed by stress. And you’ve been given the chance to help these stressful people heal and come back into alignment with the amazing source of life once more.
The Silent Blessing Method For Dealing With Stressful People
Use this method when your in the moment with a person who is angry, attacking you verbally, or is in just a plain old bad mood. I found that it works effectively well to transform the moment.
Usually you’ll find that these people will either change their demeanor or conversation with you right around, or they’ll turn right around and leave your vicinity in search of someone else that wants to play their games.
- While the person is in front of you start to generate a feeling of love
- Say in your mind, “I love you. I honor you. I respect you.”
- Keep saying the above and generating a feeling of love
The Perspective Method For Dealing With Stress
This tool is handy when you encounter someone who is continually just in a sour mood. It works just as well with random bitter people as well.
What I like to do is try to, “Walk a mile in their shoes.”
I focus on their inherit goodness because I believe that all people are good. Then I try to think about all the various circumstances that may have caused this behavior in them.
- Maybe their sick
- Maybe they lost a loved one
- Maybe they’re stressed out
- Maybe their lonely
- Maybe their suffering in some way
- Maybe someone hurt them
- Maybe they just lost their job
- Maybe someone they know is sick
- Maybe they didn’t have enough sleep
- Maybe their underwear is too tight
When you begin to see that there are countless causes for this behavior you can then truly know that their attitude in this moment is not a true picture of their inherit goodness. That they are just blinded in this moment, suffering in some way and maybe if I have a little distance, show them a little kindness, and try to choose to respond to them with love and compassion.
I can then transform this moment into something magical. Something that goes beyond an everyday occurence. An instance of instantaneous inspiration. And somehow, from someplace within you, a natural wellspring of love and peace will come forth. Transforming you and all those around you.
If you have any other great stress management techniques please share them below.
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