True Beauty

Ian Paul Marshall —  July 20, 2010 — 4 Comments

True BeautyCan You Pass The True Beauty Test?

Last night I watched the season finale of True Beauty. I had only seen one episode before and I have to admit that I mainly watched the show because I think Vanessa Mannillo, one of the hosts, is super beautiful.

The premise of the show is that they’re looking for someone who has true beauty. A person that’s beautiful on the inside and out.

The contestants are put through a series of challenges and the winners move on to the next round.

What the beauties don’t know is that their every move is being watched. Every single thing that they say and do is recorded on camera and scrutinized by the judges.

And these behind the scenes glimpses into their lives are the actual indicator of their worthiness to be called a True Beauty.

I started to think about my life and if I had a camera watching my every move would I beĀ  judged as someone who’s truly beautiful?

For me my hangups are that I’m stubborn, I get frustrated and stressed out easily, and I’m super impatient when it comes down to myself and the projects that I’m working on.

Maybe it’s because I’m a Tiger in the chinese zodiac system born in the wood year? Or maybe these are the challenges I need to face in my life right now? Quirks that I can overcome if I’m gentle with myself and become more aware that they’re there.

The scrutiny that the contestants faced on the show made me remember a movie called Seven Pounds that I had seen last year starring Will Smith.

The main character Ben Thomas, played by Will, is looking for redemption. He blames himself for the deaths of his wife and six strangers in a horrible car crash. And he’s figured out that the only way to change this situation into a good one is to transform people’s lives. He’s going to donate his organs to people in need. People that have true beauty.

One of the scenes from that movie has stuck with me to this day. In it a man who’s about to receive this gift of life from Ben (Will) asks him why he’s doing this:

George Ristuccia: You know, Ben, I keep asking you this but why me?
Ben Thomas: Because you are a good man.
George Ristuccia: No, really.
Ben Thomas: Even when you don’t know that people are watching you.

So maybe the ultimate test of true beauty is just that: To be beautiful even when no one’s watching.

And how can we do that?

I think there may be three main qualities of truly beautiful people:

Three Qualities of True Beauty

Humility
Humility is the quality of being humble: modest, not proud, doing something out of the goodness of your heart.

Honesty
Honesty refers to a facet of moral character and denotes positive, virtuous attributes such as integrity, truthfulness, and straightforwardness along with the absence of lying, cheating, or theft.

Respectfulness
A courteous regard for other people’s feelings.

I know personally that it’s been a long road for me. It started when I was in grade school. I used to blow up and explode at my teachers about once a week. I was like a ticking time bomb. And over the years, after realizing this, I’ve worked on my self-growth. Figuring out ways to let the best of myself shine.

So what do you think are the main qualities of true beauty?

Be Inspirational!

Ian

4 responses to True Beauty

  1. Hi Ian,
    I love your post, and the theme – beautiful from inside. It is a beautiful read, truly. I liked the three b’ful virtues you mentioned. I’m a freelancer and don’t work else where. And most of the time I’m home alone, and get all sorts of silly things in my mind (just go to a bar and drink, just while away time …. get away from this pain….). I always feel I’m watched by the ALMIGHTY.
    You know this test of yours to do the right when you’re not watched … is really trying. I want to drink and sleep and pretend working with others. But, that is not what my conscience approve of.
    I want to discuss with you about a book which I’m writing (it’s autobiographical) … and I want you to look at it and give your honest opinion. It’s about my journey midway through life. I would like you to give a honest opinion. It’s cooking now .. and takes sometime to be finished.
    I love your blog and it’s really so INSPIRATIONAL!
    Thank you, Solomon

  2. Hey there Solomon! Yeah it’s tough. I think the trick is to always be striving to unleash the best of yourself. And that if you fell a little bit short today you can try a little bit harder tomorrow. But be easy with yourself. Baby steps.

    Congrats on the book! I’ll send you an email to discuss it.

  3. that’s a very nice way of thinking, instead of acting in front of people a person should focus on being beautiful from the inside, thank you Ian:)

  4. Thanks for the comments Farouk! I think the true beauty challenge is something that we all can all strive to be better at. It may be tough at first, but over time I believe and new and beautiful you will emerge. Really this challenge will help to reveal the beauty that is hidden within each and every one of us.

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